I am so scared. Suicide?
I need help. I recently found out through my doctor that I indeed do have herpes. I have only had sex with three people and I am pretty sure who gave me the virus. I no longer am dating this person for reasons unrelated to the virus. I am terrified about the affect this will have on my life. I am only 21. How do I date someone, how do I tell people. No one knows. How do fall in love. I am a great guy, i want to be a great guy and I would make a great husband. How will anyone love me? How do i start a family, how do I find a woman who i can raise a family with. This is terrible. I am considering suicide and I get more and more serious about it with each passing day. the pain is unbearable both physically and emotionally. I want to die. Someone please give me any hope and advice that they can give. Reading the posts on this site have not helped one bit because the emotional stress of all parties involved is disturbing. I am at a loss. Any help or advice would be greately appreciated as I don't know what to do. Please help so I can stop this self distructive path. I want to die.
I just got my test results
I just got my test results back today... Positive. I couldn't believe it.. I had sex with a virgin, and trust me I really do believe he was truthful.. And I know the facts.. Oral too, but he claims I was his first for everything... I don't know what to do. Last time we had sex was over a month ago.. And I've only had sex with 2 people. The first one was over a year ago, can you still get symptoms from that long ago? Besides he was tested.. And was clean before we did anything sexual together. I just don't understand.. Please help.
I liked your post. I too, am
I liked your post. I too, am in the same boat. First type since I was a good with an occasional cankersore and the second type (determined from a blood test after my divorce) but never any outbreaks in the genital area. Any suggestions for how to tell someone you are dating? Also, do you take meds if you've never had an outbreak? And, does your gf have it? Thanks! :)
OMG Please don't freaking
OMG Please don't freaking Kill yourself or her for that matter. I had this shit since I was 27 and now I'm 43. I married someone without the virus. I have been married for 16 years , I have a kid. Go to Herpes Help online and get some help. I know you are sad. I know you are angry but PLEASE don't kill yourself don't let this take your life. I know you are young, I feel so bad for the young ones that get this. I wish I could hug you. You will be ok I PROMISE. DO NOT TAKE YOUR LIFE!! TALK TO SOMEONE YOUR PARENTS. I know how you feel but you don't know what the future holds............help others. DONT DO IT!!!! PLEASE!!
im 24 years old and feel the
im 24 years old and feel the same way.honestyl i feel like putting a bullet in my head.I found out in feb that i got it .I dont take medicine because i dont have insurance.Im constantly getting outbreaks and i dont know why.I do drink alot,Ive been trying not to stress it.Kinda my fault thatt i got it from jumping around with differant girls.Im not a bad looking guy by i feel ugly.I fucked up.I dont see things getting better.I just feel ive fucked up anything good for the future.After i found out i took a knife and nearly cut my arm off.The pai did not hurt nearly compared to the pain i felt or feel inside,id actually wich death on the girl t hat gave it tome.So i believe that one nite im gunna get very drunk and paint the walls red.
I was just in the middle of
I was just in the middle of replying when I realized you posted this on 5/11, and it's now 5/16- so I'm assuming your doc appt. has already passed?
If not, check your temp. to see if you have a fever. If you do, it is possible that you have herpes.
Any blisters or cold sores in your mout (back of throat, side of mouth, roof of mouth, lips, etc.)?
Any pain in the mouth?
Seriously, you want to kill
Seriously, you want to kill yourselves because you have Herpes??!!! There are so many worse things in this world to have to live with, or die from, this is not such a biggie!
I live in the UK and our medical advice is that you can only PASS THE VIRUS ON WHILST IT IS INFLAMED. So, when there are no visible sores, you won't pass it on through unprotected sex.
Lots of people only get the one or two break outs in their lifetimes, and with treatment it can clear up pretty quickly.
I was seriously ill and hospitalised with what looked like genital herpes which had entered my bloodstream and became systemic. I had to be catheterised as I could not pee and the shame and despair I felt at being told I had herpes was unbearable. Especially as my husband of 14 years had no symptoms at all, so it would appear that I was the unfaithful one, when I had never been with anybody else!! The swabs came back negative, but they don't do the blood tests in the UK so I still don't know what it was, and if it will come back. I have permanent genital skarring which disgust me, and I still feel the shame and disgust that I had this. BUT I am lucky, because my husband never doubted my fidelity for one second, and I have a life to live.
How selfish and evil an act of suicide and how pathetic over something as small as herpes! My cousin had herpes, still had no problem getting a wife, having children etc, and none of them caught it! To die at 21 from this is so tragically pointless, and to end your life at 50 because you don't want to use a condom is almost laughable! Be grateful at 50 that you can still get it up at all! If this woman was your soulmate, you'd never do that to her.
You need to get a grip, take a reality check and open your eyes to the suffering and pain all around you of those so worse off than you, and those who are fighting to stay alive and would love to be in your shoes!
this happened to me the first
this happened to me the first time i ever did anything sexual. does it hurt to wee? cause when i had it i found myself unable to wee withought crying or screaming.
hey :( this scares me... i
hey :( this scares me... i had oral sex and my bf had a cold sore... with both had no idea it can cause genital herpes
:( he feels horrible, and well idk... im scared i might have it, the first time i ever do somethign and it ends up with this. i have a doc appointment and i don't want my mom to find out, if she did she would come in between our love. i'm only 18... i don't see anything down there yet but i'm paranoid constantly checking myself, seeing if it looks normal... end up crying cuz idk whats normal:( i dont have any blisters what s0o ever so far but ive had cramps and back ache and headaches... so idk this is the fourth day. please give me advice, i know i wont make a dumb mistake again.......babywho28@yahoo.com my email...
Peope people!!! Get over it!
Peope people!!! Get over it! Its not the end of the damn world! In case u havent realized it, 80% of the population has cold sores/hsv1 and 50% have HSV2!!! You are in the minority only in thatyou are facing your reality while most ignore it! I have both, 1 and 2 and I never get any symptoms ever in my genitals! I get cold sores on my mouth and have ALWAYS had cold sores since I was a child! Most people get HSV1 when they are children from something as simple as sharing a spoon to eat! (see http://www.pueblo.gsa.gov/cic_text/health/fever-blister/fever-canker.html) I have NEVER passed HSv1 to my gf's, my fiance of 6 years has never had an HSV1 sore on her mouth, when I have a sore I simply avoid heavy kissing, other than that we have share every fluid known to man!
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I had HSV1 since I was a child, got a hsv2 from a cheating wife (who still denies, lol) and I still found my soulmate. The problem with our society is ignorance and denial by the majoirty of the population who have HSV1 but claim they dont have it simply because they dont "get tested" or have a "positive" result. HSV2 while more rare, (again 50% of the adult population!) is still a common conidtion. Like I said, ive never had a genital break out, I only found out by getting a test after my divorce.
Since you are FACING your reality responsibly, you now have the opportunity to find others that are in the same boat as u and face the reality bravely like you, you are corageous!!,There are dating websites for people like us: (positivesingles.net) and others, so u can find sum1. Or you can live like the majoity of Herpes carriers, be ignorant and claim you are "clean" and make ignorant and cruel assertions like most people do about Herpes.
Chances are the next person you meet will claim they dont have herpes, however in reality they probably have hsv1 atleast, so PLEASE dont consider suicide, live on, we need you, you are the responsible one, the one who makes this world better by educating the ignorant. You can find sum1 who either has the "condition" or doesnt and is willing to love u. Chances are, you will find sum1 who has the same "condition" as u.
to the amazing guy who posted
to the amazing guy who posted this, please dont end your life. i feel the same way, something similiar happened, and im also 21 but female- when i read you original post my heart warmed, and i dont want you to die. please stay. im glad you exist.
Orion
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